Face book question?

While going over a security lesson with my 12 yr old we linked through my daughters account to my wife's facebook prohile (to show my daughter how easy it is to find personel info). I noticed sever hugs and kisses and an application called zoosk installed. On her friends list I recognized the name of the guy she lived with for several years 18 years ago (we have lived together for 17 years and have two kids together). I hacked into her account and found that it was a high school friend sending her hugs - not the X. However there were a lot of conversations with her X for the past 3 months and they were planning to get together for a drink to catch up at the next fall fair in the town they grew up in an hour away (my wife goes sometimes but I never go). He is now fat and married.





Was I wrong to break into the account and should I blow my top at the idea of them saying to each other they would like to get together to catch up?????? I feel guilty about the privicy issu

Face book question?
i think it was wrong as you could see thing's what she has wrote and that is it personal how would you feel about her reading your emails just tell her what you did and be honest you might find out things you don't want to know so be careful next time even though there should not be one.
Reply:well, you should trust your wife. Technically you werent purposely looking at her facebook, but when you saw that information you should have stopped and just asked her about it. You were wrong to hack into her account yes.
Reply:Yes you were wrong.
Reply:And you should feel guilty. She's done nothing wrong. I too have met several people from my past on Face Book and have had some wonderful chats with them. Male and Female. I've seen 3 girlfriends, and 1 male I dated 30 yrs ago. I've had a great time rediscovering some of these people... and yes, some of them are my "ex's".... So what??? I'm in love with my husband, and he is very secure in that knowledge. Do you have past trust issues with your wife?? If you do not, then I don't know what your problem is......
Reply:Been there. You hate yourself for hacking into it, but now you feel somewhat justified. Now your delima is what to do. If you admit what you did, she is probably going to be upset and not trust you. But she is the one who is perhaps not being totally honest about things.





This brings back bad memories. There is no great answer to your problem. You still love her and you still need to trust her. She needs to feel comfortable in telling you when she is going to meet old friends, etc. You were wrong for hacking into the account but don't blow your top on this one. This sounds fairly harmless outside of her not telling you about him.
Reply:I think your nuts and being a man totally normal your mind is going 80 miles an hour I am sure catch up to her means something totally different then what your thinking.





I believe the accuser is the accused what have you been up to that would make you even go into her account and spy?


Or has she given you reason to do so?





A normal healthy marriage a man or wife would not spy on the other one unless they have good reason or have guilt of thier own?





So think of that one!
Reply:Just pretend you didn't do it.


It was wrong, but it was normal to be curious. Don't worry about it, if he's fat and married, then they almost surely are only meeting to catch up.